Is love an addict, Part 2
So in these two blogs that I'm painting the picture of what addiction might be like if it appears in your life. And I noticed he can see a lot of different ways, and most of them are not stereotypes to "think" is addiction. That, my friends is what you get into trouble.
One of my readers recently pointed out that drug addiction, all addictions are enough to make someone cord almost completely mad. One of the things that makes the atmosphere of lies. This is especially true when you do not expect, or when the person you love does not seem dependent, and Naturally, no one person kind of lie. When you meet these lies and contradictions, you start questioning your soul, very much. Sometimes addicts literally can not remember I remember because he or she was drugged or drunk at the time, but try to hide their doubts and put the blame on you. In my personal experience, my husband Dave could tell me the sky was green. But he did so with the credibility, that assurance and ease so that he could soon look in the sky thinking "Damn, that the sky is green today can be. "
A recurring feature of the alcoholic is a car insurance policy that literally pushes doubt. Over time this security itself often becomes arrogance, and a common term AA is that alcoholics are really an egomaniac with an inferiority complex. My husband embodied that adagio. I was always 100% sure that was right in everything. But if you know very well you could see that there was not much self-that. Now on the other hand, we who love addicts also tend to have low self-esteem. experience of life in general has created to be malleable, we tend to doubt, and more than willing to put our faith in someone else. Normally this is the way I was with Dave and me, so when he says his own version of "the sky is green" my first thought was that I always looked Inevitably do I have to be crazy. "So if you're in a relationship that resembles these two polar opposites coexist in doubt (We call it selfish and altruism), and if it seems crazy that things are said, argued and justified, and if you doubt your own sanity in all this. You may live in a dependent relationship. In Al-Anon says that we, the spouses of alcoholics are addicted to the "spirit of change, Moody men … or women.
If drug users, or simply do not remember what I said in some alcoholics or drug-induced damage. But they are very good at making others think we are fools. Consumers drug addition, cheat, steal, threaten, intimidate, dominate and even use physical force. But when I pushed to its limit, it will pull the hook and bait to roll in. Now, keep in mind when I say addicted, I talk about the disease of addiction and not the original human nature under the drug. This nature is usually good, and so very often, but when the 10 trillion cells are addicted, to the right person I love you not come very often.
But However, there is a high level of manipulation in addiction and addicts to use every trick in the book to help you stay where you are ready to go. Will soft words, gifts, tears, gestures of love, protest, and any other means of pulling the strings of his heart. And all these elements are completely believable, and very likely from the heart for the addict, that we truly love, I think. So when I was near a breaking point of tenderness that came from my ex-husband was palpable. Then a further sign of a unit to this, is that you can see a pattern of arguments and turmoil that come to a point near desperate. And they can be followed by sweetness you like you can hardly resist. Most addicts are not fully developed, and most people who love them are the greatest guardians. So Dave and I also loved the child or take care not to come to the foreground this time of despair, and I always succumb.
Other signs of dependence. I think I talked to hide his secret addiction becomes a problem. At this point, the madness really begins. Dave used to swear that he no drinking. In those days, I began to see signs, but there was no alcohol everywhere. I thought again: "I must be crazy." To date I went to every corner of the garage and found a value of 2 months old bottles hidden under some cover, and the old discarded refrigerator Business College has been used for the new supply of beer. Drug addicts hide their pot, and put their prescription drugs in bottles of vitamins, sex addicts are hiding their porn magazines, videos, widgets house accounts to hide if you do not know, do not get paid.
Addicts go to all lengths to make sure nobody sees the amount of drugs, alcohol or sex they consume. Dave used to go two towns over to get the alcohol, and it varies its suppliers. This is another sign that a problem. Even the owners Store as much drinking! Another thing I did was show that half of recycling. I wanted to be half full then the garbage man would not know how much I drank! Now, I've never understood why it did then. He said that years later. But there is something they seek. Do you like weird, inexplicable about their consumption of alcohol, drugs or addictive behaviors. If so, then he knows he has a problem and tries to hide it.
And he knows there is a problem, then There is a real problem. Because the family, who live in confusion, deception, manipulation, and our own lack of confidence, often considered the last to know. And if you think you can be an addiction, but you can not find the source, this does not mean that it is not there. This simply means that you can not find. And if you ever find a treasure hidden somewhere, you can be sure, there are games of chance
But the greatest sign, and I mean largest signal, no bar to love someone with an addiction is its own state of mind and behavior. It's a little known fact that
people love addicts often act crazier than the addicts themselves. We brought to the brink of insanity by the lies, manipulation, self-questioning, and the constant interplay our emotions. I remember once with Dave to start a controversy over a submarine sandwich. This was the folly of our life. We could argue for an hour or more in a sandwich. So we went on road and took the sandwich and threw it out the window, bag, towel and all. On another occasion, I almost make me one moving car. A On another occasion, I pushed my engagement ring in the tall grass, and once a lawn chair flew through the porch. This happened my hands and I was not even drinking!
There were other crazy things I found to do so. Jagged attacks within an hour crying on the bathroom floor, hidden in the bushes of my house for half an hour to get rid of him, driving panic ground for hours, if not submitted, I locked myself in the bathroom with the shower running to drown. Luckily, my ex was a drinker at home, or you can see me scouring the bars to find it. However, it considered that the possibility of diverting the car on the railing, and I wondered how I could do it and not harm anyone else.
If your behavior is a madness that is not simply how you know yourself to be, is the largest single index that can ask someone else from dependence on their hands. And if you think you are crazy, the question is, or what is driving the car you got there?
This is probably a kind of dependence of the wheel of this car and the car is designed the right guard, you know it or not.
Written by second-hand addiction specialist, author and spokesperson, Lorelei F.
www.secondhandaddiction.blogspot.com
About the Author
Lorelei F is a writer and speaker who educates people about second hand addiction as well as addiction in general. Please visit her blog at www.secondhandaddiction.blogspot.com
